"The best guide to making up with your ex..."
"The Magic of Making Up," written by T.W. Jackson, is a guide for those that are looking to mend their broken relationship with their significant other. Jackson's methods, though controversial among many relationship specialists, are based on his own life experience and knowledge. His book offers practical advice on what you can do to win back the affections of your lost love in just eight clear and simple steps.
Jackson's first step is for you to understand why it is that your relationship ended in the first place. This step is a key component of the whole process, because there is simply no way to correct a problem if you don't know what the issue was in the first place. The book takes you through how to identify the cause of your falling out so that you can have a better understanding of the steps that you will need to take in order to repair the damage. Once you have done that, you can move on to step two.
Jackson can't put enough emphasis on the next step, which is basically not to panic. It's the normal reaction of anyone to freak out a little at the loss of a loved one, whether it's by blowing up their phone with a million messages, showing up at their house, or groveling for them to take you back. Jackson explains how this will not only not help the situation, but could inevitably make it much worse. The book helps you to keep your cool and approach the situation calmly and rationally. Doing this will allow you to develop a clear plan of action to win back your loved one.
The next step is to figure out exactly where you stand in the relationship. You will need to evaluate the situation and determine whether or not reconciliation is actually going to be possible. The book will get you to ask many questions, like how do you feel towards your ex? How do they currently feel about you? Is there still an open line of communication between the two of you? Etc. Once you know where you stand, you will be able to know where to start.
Now comes the most important point in the book. This is where Jackson helps you devise your plan to finally get your significant other back into your arms. Now that you have figured out where you stand in your relationship, you should have a better understanding of what it is that you need to do to fix it. Jackson offers numerous strategies that you can use to piece together your course of action. The book plainly explains what it is that you need to do and how exactly you will need to do it. The step by step instructions are clear and easy for the reader to implement. It is important to remember that once you develop your plan, you need to stick to it. Without a clear plan, you are simply going to be setting yourself up for failure.
The next part of the book explains the importance of having a support system. When trying to get your ex back into your life, you will need the help of friends and family to get you through the difficult times. It can also be extremely beneficial to your cause if you both your friends and your significant other's friends are there backing up your reunion. Jackson encourages you to reach out to your ex's friends, provided that you had a good relationship with them before, and ask for their assistance in trying to get your ex back. If they like you and approved of your relationship, then they will more than likely be willing to help you. And if your ex sees that their friends are supportive of you getting back together, then they may be more open to the idea as well.
The sixth chapter of the book explains how you should slowly ease your way back into your relationship. At this point your ex is probably open to the idea of forgiveness and getting back together, but you that doesn't mean that you should try to rush things. Healing takes time and things that were broken rarely stay together long if the reparations are done sloppily. Though you are probably anxious to get back to the happy memories and good times, Jackson explains how delicate this time in your relationship can be and what you will need to do in order to make sure that your plan works out in the long run.
Once you ex has decided to give you another chance, you will be on your way to getting back to the happy couple that you once were. Here the book warns that in order to truly mend your relationship and move forward, you will need to let go of the past. Acknowledge that you and your partner are starting off on a clean slate and don't bring up any previous issues or fights. In order to maintain your love, you will both need to forgive and forget and be willing to move forward like new.
And finally, in the last chapter of Jackson's book is the hard truth about what to do if your relationship simply cannot be salvaged. This chapter explains that it's important to accept the possibility that try as you might, your plan could inevitably fail. This can be a heartbreaking and painful experience for anyone. Jackson helps to ease you through the process as he walks you through how to let go of the relationship and learn to move on with your life and on to better things.
Though some of Jackson's strategies may not be conventional, they certainly seem practical and effective and have helped thousands of couples reunite and move forward to have happier and healthier relationships. This book is a great find for anyone that is looking to win back their lost love and rekindle the spark in their relationship.